Surviving The Loss of A Loved One
| It isn’t easy to keep on course and move on with your life after the death of someone you love dearly. You wonder why it happened the way it did. You may wonder why it wasn’t you. And what did it mean anyway?Trying to make sense out of someone’s life through your own eyes and level of understanding may very well be an impossible task. Like the parable about two blind people describing an elephant: the first person, standing behind the elephant says, “It has leathery skin, a whip for a tail and legs like tree trunksThe second person, standing in front of the elephant, feels what is in front of him and says, “Yes, I agree it does have leathery skin, but it has a big tail like a hose, and huge wings.” Some things are just so big, we can’t see all the pieces at once
Months before Steve, my son, made his transition, I had been asked by our minister to give a Little did we know that Steve would pass just days before I was scheduled to give this address, and “New Beginnings” turned into an opportunity for me to share with other people this incredible experience, this rebirthing of my son. After I finished telling of the magnificence of his death, it felt as if the top of my head opened and Light was pouring down on me with a miraculous blessing of peace, love and an incredible sense of well being. Later I mentioned this to my minister and remarked that now I understood why he loved to give sermons. he said he himself had never experienced anything similar after speaking at church. Even though that Light stayed with me on and off for months, I learned poignantly that we can feel more than one emotion at the same time. I still felt the pain and despair that his life had been cut so short. We miss people we love who are no longer in the physical realm We miss their special characteristics and the times we shared in laughter and love. Many nights I awakened to cry and learned to comfort myself by rocking and keening One such night, I rose and was moved to kneel in prayer. I was asking Spirit to reveal to me why… why had Steve’s life been so short and make no sense to me? Had he been given a chance to come back like I had in my Near Death Experience? Tears were streaming down my face and my heart felt ready to burst when hand written words appeared in front of me lit up like a neon sign. The words said “We are all ONE Later that year, I went to a ten day Mystery School Seminar put on by Jean Houston. It was an intense and enlightening workshop and hundreds of people came from all over the world for the experience One of the exercises was to pair up with someone you didn’t know as a prayer partner. First you were to pray for some healing you wanted for yourself, then pray for a similar healing for your family, your community and finally to extend that prayer out to include the entire human race This is a powerful technique and since then I have often used this same way to expand my intention to include revealing Truth to others That day I teamed up with a woman I had never seen before or since, for that matter. She went first, praying in the prescribed manner. Then it was my turn My thoughts turned to Steve. Our family had been feeling his energy around us, in awareness and dreams. I prayed that we could release him into his next experience with love, knowing he was meant to move on with his personal evolution In prayer, I spoke to him, telling him it was OK to move on, to go ride his motorcycle in the sky. Suddenly he appeared before me just as real as you or I. He emanated Light and appeared like a film transparency, no real substance, nothing there I could put my arms around
My prayer moved into a new level of awe and gratitude, as I prayed with my prayer partner that all loved ones in the community be released in love, and that all souls passing over could freely go in peace and joy. This incredible experience sustains me still It doesn’t seem to matter how many years go by, each year is different, varying in intensity, so I never know what to expect. Every year on the day of Steve’s passing I set aside time to meditate; to remember the feel of him, to send him my love Some years ago my friends sent me flowers to acknowledge my part in birthing him into the next realm. This year, I bought two identical bouquets of flowers to create a ceremony. I kept one for myself in the living room and the other one I set free on a wave in the ocean on the beautiful sunny day that is the anniversary of his death Frequently I have flashbacks as I relive the events of that intense time of his passing as bits and pieces shoot through my heart and mind with piercing clarity Could it be that sometimes these events are so traumatic at the time they happen that we need to relive them again and again through a span of time in order to deal with all the various levels of such a bitter-sweet experience? That first year Steve died, we planted a tree in our backyard to honor his continued growth. It always made me feel better to have that symbol still visible in the material world. The tree’s blooms and growth have given me strength to remember the truth about life. We change form but the energy that makes up our heart and soul is forever. The truth is… there is no death! To be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. Romans 8:6 The Lord is my shepherd. . . He restoreth my soul. . . Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for thou art with me. ~ Psalm 23:1,3,4 If you would like to share your personal experience of how to deal with the death of a loved one, or your own Near Death Experience, please do so by emailing me I am compiling information for an upcoming project |
